I've been tracking the weather in the Homeland, and it's pretty cold up that way, relatively speaking. I was watching the single digit negative numbers, and I'll be the first to admit that I'll take the heavy mist and big rain drops like pictured to the left yesterday morning over scrapping off my windshield! The sky is clear now, and the sun almost too hot. There was a little bit of weather that came by in the middle of the night yesterday that left it's trace. The picture on the left is my windshield covered with heavy mist, and drops of rain. Good thing I didn't take the time to wash my jeep. I was gonna, but I found I had to replace an idle sensor. In the process of checking the rest of them, I found I had a torn differential hose. Then the hours went by in getting the two issues resolved (more or less)! Yeah. I like to work on my jeep when it needs it. Thank God it still runs pretty well considering the number of miles it has on it. I could lease a new car or buy a used one, but why have another expense to appease the public?! I'm frugal that way just as much as I am when it comes to "dating" and "meeting" people.
It was just the other night when I had RSVP'ed to a local 'singles' and active people meet up group that is largely composed of 20 and 30 somethings. I invited Al to join in as I added a plus one to my RSVP. It was a trivia and tacos night, and I like both. I like them better with people I know, but I'm good in either environment. Eventually Al got back to me that she was bringing a friend along for the experience. By the time the event was going to start, what was one friend became one freind, her boyfriend and another person for a total of four people! LOL. Naturally, the event was going to be watched from a distance from a table that was fun for people watching till it became a Q&A on preferences for never been married (Although I've dated a few divorced ones, no-children, and younger-than-me women! LOL. I didn't think about it initially, but eventually I realized it was communicating to the recently divorced single ladies at the table that they were not 'valid' in my dating selection. Go figure.
Keep in mind, I initially invited my wing-girl AL, and it was she that invited them! It's true. So apart from the conversation, I hadn't signed up to entertain a few gals that needed validating for their lives as older and being divorced, but I understand that everyone needs a hand to hold on to...it's just not likely to be mine. I date younger women for lots of reasons. I'm not saying if I run into a gal that I get along with, is still in excellent physical shape and has that kind of lifestyle, and has something interesting to say, I wouldn't consider it. But, given the options of older versus younger and some of the important factors being the same....I'm going with younger (+/- 10 years max for more serious relationships) if only for the fact that we may decide to have children ( Yes, I just said that.), and that option usually isn't operational in older-than-me women.
My natural inclination was to ask, because I was beginning to feel picked on after being drilled about why it was that I haven't gotten married or if I "really" wanted to have children or not, "Why the hell are you divorced or divorcing then?" OMG!! The less obvious facts never came out..they were unhappy, their partner was a 'looser', or they feel they are somehow entitled to more than what they have earned in their lives. Worse, their time to complete the circle of life, if they hadn't done so, has already passed. One thing I keep in mind is the plan fact of being a human--men are not concerned with a clock that is ticking. It's usually women that are. So, the "need-to-make-a-decision-to-have children is not one I'm concerned with at the ripe age of 41. Why? For the very reasons I date younger women!! I can and their clock hasn't ticked out as of yet. In the end, none of the conversation should've even applied or involved me. One of the gals was in her 50s and the other near it, and neither of them living a health-based lifestyle that would get my attention if I had met them randomly. This excludes the issues of chemistry, compatibility, and a host of other real factors that usually are applied to men when qualifying them as either a "potential" or not. When the reverse application is done, that is use the same number of things to determine if women are a 'good option,' everyone of them is offended! Rules like...having a going somewhere job...not living with your parents, or not having some personal issues that put you in your parents place in the first place. I understand personally life can happen to you, and you need to end up somewhere, but if you are not in the process of improving your 'move' forward, something may not be exactly right. In all of it, we just need a hand to hld on to...Just saying. Then there's Al and me, and we're essentially the same age! Both professionals with earning potential and career mobility; it's something Al forgets about or doesn't care to acknowledge. In the recesses of our outing the next day, she agreed that we can and should date younger people when it works. We're both in the positions that will ultimately allow us choices that 80% of the population will never have, and we have to be mindful of how much work went into getting those options and leave those types of conversations for other people. All of that from one invitation to a gal I would've had a great time with, but somehow everyone else showed up as a security blanket! LOL.
In the middle of all of this talk, my aunt was going Facebook ballistic and managed to find a few classics shot in one of those old-school photo booths of her, my brother, and me at the age of six or seven. I couldn't help but laugh and then fill with nostalgia realizing I still have the same haircut less the bowl. I still have the same care-free look and smile not to mention laugh. I remembered being a kid again and how good it felt to just be. I also remembered my nanny (not pictured) that was the next door neighbor's daughter and how much fun we had. LOL. Yesterday, I walked into the gym before I got to my work day obligations to put some miles on my shoes for the marathon with a little bit of that care-free, happy-go-lucky look on my face. I was gonna run four miles but ended up running just over five; it's a good start. The desk manager noticed, and after I ran but before I left asked me an odd question, "Have you been getting some intimacy time with someone?' I was a bit shocked at first but then laughed as the various faces came to mind from the not so distant past especially the smurf. "Not really. Why do you ask?" I said only to hear her say I had a strange look of satisfaction and care-freeness to me that day that she'd never seen. Later, I text her the picture above and mentioned she must've gotten a glimpse of my inner child! Hahahaha. I later ended up behind the wheel of a convertible Bentley. Yup. I'm 'Getting Adjusted To The Good Life' as it is for other people!
That's it folks. Till next time..."Be well. Do good work, and come back again." Keiller.
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