So, the week... As is the season, I've been attempting to capture the "Best Of" photos for this last year and put them on a Holiday postcard of sorts to let people know I'm thinking of them but to also commemorate what happened,and more importantly, what I am hopeful will happen in 2016. Yes. There are 'universal' laws that say if we can think it into being, it can be, but we have to allow it to exist first in our minds. We have to change our perspectives on things, our behaviors, and other people, the way we perceive they are doing or not, so that we ultimately can free them to be human and indirectly ourselves to improve and just maybe enjoy more of the moment.
It is true that if we want to change we have to allow the opportunity for other people to also change, and that may mean we have to allow the possibility of going back and dealing with some hurts and pains that we've learn to run away from or ignore, and in doing so we've set up, albeit largely unconsciously, self-defeating patterns in our approach to other people, our work, and our ability to dream and invite in what may very well be the life you and me want to have, live and enjoy. Most of these thoughts I've written about in some form or another, but I felt reaffirmed in my belief about the interconnectedness of all things and people and how one affects the other directly and indirectly when I attended a "Laws of Attraction" seminar. I thought it was more about being single because it was being promoted by a "Singles" Meet Up group, but there I was with a number of people clearly a decade or more older than me, which I always find disturbing that the group is for 30's and 40's but essentially retired or near retiring people are showing up. This has happened to me twice. I'm gonna have to start going to the 20's groups so I can end up with people close to my age! LOL.
Recently, as in the last week, I've been speaking casually with a few of the people I see regularly at Starbucks. One of them eventually informed me that she read my blog story (The last part of the three part series.), and informed me that she felt it was, "..for lack of a more neutral word, creepy!" I laughed at first because I knew the reaction was because the first two stories hadn't been read or even the last one for the details that lead to a certain number of possibilities about her behavior in my absence. I politely informed her that the part of the story that is missing in the blog will be added to the actual published addition; it is the part that talks about my December 2014 visit; all the surprising ultra-private things I discovered that like Vince Van on Wedding Crashers I was delighted to find out about my girl friend like his 'Stage-Three Clinger' but ended up not knowing what to do when the discovery was not mutually appreciated. It is the key corner-stone of the story, and it is the part that brings it all together and why everything happened, in part, the way it did. The story in it's completeness is about hope, understanding our humanity, and holding on to things more important than the past. I'm eager to have it all done because it will hopefully be the end of the beginning of healing for all of us. 
One of the recent topics I'm going over is the sensation of joy and where her research participants say they most readily experienced it. "People would often point out that it was the simple things in life and their relationships that gave them joy. One woman said she felt joy when she came down stair in the morning to find her husband in his same spot reading the paper while drinking a cup of coffee. Another person said he found joy when his wife would laugh at random things he wouldn't of thought of as funny." She goes into other examples and how it, joy, can more readily be experienced. After I read this section, I was left thinking about why I smile or laugh at things from my recent relationship cause it's been on my mind more so as of late (Likely cause I'm finally reading the damn book like I was supposed to last year.). A number of things came to mind that could fit the idea of joy of things that it can be found in, and I laughed because they are the things I wrote about in my story not knowing that the reason behind them was because of the sensation they gave me time and time again-joy. I got to experience joy in the midst of all of it and even before things changed between us. Perspectives can change if we know to let them change, and when they do, so does our perspective on the people in our lives, what they do and why they do things.
Take a moment and think about something that special one does or says that gives you that sense of being apart of..belonging. Maybe you have taken a moment to tell them about that activity or thing they say or do or maybe you haven't, but when they do acknowledge it. This could very well be the beginning of your experience of joy (one of the many I'm sure) with that person. Maybe you should share it with them...tell them, "When you do such and such a thing....When you laugh at this such and such a thing...when I see you do this such and such a thing, it makes me feel connected to you, and it gives me so much amount of joy when it happens. Try it. You never know what might happen. 2016 may be the year you grow personally, relationally, and financially, but it starts with being there in the moment and capturing it and as many as you can! This is it. Till next week or I come across a reading epiphany, "Be well. Do good work, and be merry."
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