Well folks it's finally here--Apirl. I took the day off to remember the year and the day for all that it means in my personal life. I'm going to do a few routine things like grab a cup of Joe, maybe hit the gym, take a look at my jeep and cleaning him up, and sometime towards sunset I will go down to Zuma and watch the sun go down and write in my journal about today. Hopefully it'll be nice and not too windy. In either case, I'll likely grab a bite at one of the local burger shoppes if they're aren't too many people from the office there cause it is a locals' hang-out. I suppose I'll let ya know.
As time moved forward, the dollars grew and so did my prospecting endeavors in California. I had planned on returning after I got through my health dilemma and made enough cash to transition over. What began to happen, in spite of my on-going efforts, I got comfortable with my uncomfortable life. I mean I had enough. I had a gym to go to. A place to live. I had a few new friends and most of my old friends. My family lived in the area, and I knew places and was familiar with and to almost everybody. It happens when you grow up in a big, smaller town and your a former nightlife lord. Somewhere in there and in between things, I knew I was not done; I had something different to do somewhere else.It was why I left for California in 2007 and why I felt I should return. I could feel it growing every day and the weather didn't help--discontent. The coldest Winter in MN history of my life-time as it turned out. The more I looked for 'opportunities' that would ultimately lead me back to California, the more I wanted to erase the memory of it because I wasn't sure if it was what I was supposed to do (Recovery: Surviving & Reconstructing the Dream.), I had my basic needs met, but everything happens for a reason! Right?!So, one day as I was looking at 'chiropractic job' opportunities attempting to appease the restlessness in my person at my local Starbucks, a person showed up in my life for the first time. A blizzard was finishing up dropping snow everywhere essentially stalling the traffic on most of the major road ways. It was because of this that a short girl pulled off of the non-moving traffic road to sit and wait it out over a cup of coffee. Everything happens for a reason. When she got around to sitting next to me, she recanted how she was fed up with the weather and how, in her attempt to maybe change her life's circumstances, she had started interviewing with companies in California. In fact she had just flown back the day before from an interview that looked positive. It was then that I informed her that I was doing the same and had been in the process of picking the right one, so I could return after my last year of health rebuilding. She laughed. We laughed, and in the end I told her she should leave the mess we were both surviving just outside the doors if she could, "..get the hell out if you can. You can always come back home if you don't like it, but you'll never know if you do till you try." She took those words to be a sign because why would some guy she found attractive, that had also lived in California and was working his way back at the same time she was be sitting there on the one and only day she had ever driven down that road to go to work but had to because of the snow. Everything happens for a reason.
Without having said anything of where it was I planning on returning to or that I had CE credits to do in Thousand Oaks, she ended up temporarily living in the very place I had envisioned returning to because of my history with the town but also because it was a lot like the suburb that I had been working in my time home--Edina. So, it was no surprise to me as much as it was to her that I knew the town and showed her around it in her first few days of her arriving. She decided it was time to take a chance accept that the job notified her she had to start 30 days sooner. That pretty much gave me no time to know her well but enough time to decide I should because sooner or later I was going to be there in area somewhere, and so the story went (The Pursuit of Happiness.). We dated. We got to know each other a little better, and in it we learned somethings about the other that we were both working on improving and why we, ultimately, both needed to leave the Homeland. It's too easy to do nothing and just fall into the place people want you to fall into or feel is 'best' for you and let yourself believe that it's what life is supposed to be like for you never really questioning the status quot, but everything happens for a reason. Right?!
We decided to run the LA marathon independently but trained together for it, and in there somewhere we lost each other. Then it was over as we worked through really difficult relationship stuff together. In the end, the relationship had ended before the LA Marathon 2015 even began. What I thought was one of the bigger signs that I was supposed to return to California had just disappeared and now I was struggling to decide if it was just a dream to return California after cancer survival or just a delayed reality that I let linger too long. Well, a new sign had come into the picture. She discovered we were expecting just a few days after the relationship was over by almost 3 months. In the aftermath, some of her behavior and thoughts made more sense in light of that fact. It was the sign for not only her but me that it was time to move forward in my planning leave Minnesota. What we knew as misunderstandings and difference in our relationship we would put aside and work through with someone else but for now we would operate as teammates. We were thrilled. We were afraid and uncertain it was the right thing to pursue, but everything happens for a reason, and I felt peace about it. Shortly after making the decision to move forward, the doors in my life began to open as other began to close, and in it, I knew with or without the relationship I had to listen to the signs and leave, and a good thing I did.
her own way after we both lost our reason to continue forward together today, April 1st. It was a sad day and one that I definitely could've done better with. I needed to be here for the rest of my life's path plan to unfold because it wasn't going to happen for me otherwise. I had to be home all that time to learn and become the professional I am. All the events and various connections that moved me back into the direction I needed to go happened as they needed to. It was not easy lots of the time, but everything happens for a reason, and we have to be diligent enough to hold on to the right things, people, and our own humanity's desires loosely. Our life plan maybe different than what we think. I've come to learn though, that if I look for the peace in me and around me, I can hear and see what the signs are telling me...the Creator is speaking and the Universe is lighting the path. It may very well be the truth that things do happen for a reason, and we don't always see what those reasons are when they're happening to us. All things are one and written by the same hand. There it is.
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